Love your enemies
Do good to those who hate you
Bless those who curse you
Pray for those who abuse you
(Luke 6:27)
If loving your neighbor as yourself seems radical, loving your enemy seems downright fringe—perhaps mentally unstable in the sense of wholesale abandonment of self, even nihilistic in the sense of complete destruction of ego and identification with that which seeks to destroy you. So what gives? Why would Jesus ask us to do this?
Until we realize that we are all in this together, we will not realize that love of others is love of self and, perhaps more importantly, harm to others is harm to self. Understood in this way, Jesus’s admonition to “love your enemies” is easier to understand and live out—enemies are an extension of self just as neighbors are. We—self, other, neighbor, enemy—are all one, reflections of the same light.
The same light is this: all of us, every living being, seeks happiness and avoids suffering. And that’s true of our enemies too. Sure, some of us pursue happiness through very misguided means, but attainment of happiness and avoidance of suffering is what we are all striving for. I believe I have a right to be happy, and if it’s worthwhile for me to be happy, then it’s worthwhile for my enemy to be happy too. If I can view my enemy that way—as an extension of me, seeking happiness and avoiding suffering—I can connect with my enemy on a human level and, as Jesus instructs, perhaps even love, pray for, bless, and do and wish good for my enemy. If enemies, like neighbors, are an extension of self, then wishing (or worse, doing) ill to enemies harms self, and extending good to enemies is extending good to self.
Jeffrey Hopkins provides a Buddhist perspective on this. A professor of Tibetan studies and one-time interpreter for the Dalai Lama, Hopkins writes:
If your own best friend went mad and came at you with a knife to kill you, what would you do? You would seek to disarm your friend, but then you would not proceed to beat the person, would you? You would disarm the attacker in whatever way you could—you might even have to hit the person in order to disarm him, but once you have managed to disarm him, you would not go on to hurt him. Why? Because he is close to you.
If you felt that everyone in the whole universe was in the same relationship to you as your very best friend, and if you saw anyone who attacked you as your best friend gone mad, you would not respond with hatred. You would respond with behavior that was appropriate, but you would not be seeking to retaliate and harm the person out of hatred. He would be too dear to you.
You can read the entire article, Everyone as a Friend, by clicking here.